You want to keep your kids safe, but some well-meaning advice might actually be putting them at risk.
Here are 10 things you should stop saying to your children, along with better alternatives to help keep them safe and confident:
“Strangers Are Dangerous.”
Most harm comes from familiar people, not strangers. Instead of focusing on “stranger danger,” teach your child to be aware of risky behaviors and uncomfortable situations, no matter who’s involved.“Mind Your Own Business.”
Encouraging this can lead kids to ignore their surroundings. Teach them to stay observant, trust their instincts, and notice unusual behavior. This awareness can help them avoid dangerous situations.“Take a Phone, It Will Keep You Safe.”
While a phone is handy, it’s not always enough. Equip your child with practical self-defense skills and strategies they can use in the moment. Technology shouldn’t be their only safety tool.“Give Aunty Sue a Kiss.”
Don’t pressure your child into physical affection. Let them decide if they’re comfortable with it. Explain that they have the right to refuse any touch that doesn’t feel right, even with family members.“You’re Safe Online if You Don’t Share Personal Info.”
Simply avoiding sharing personal details isn’t enough for online safety. Help your child recognize the risks of talking to strangers online, and encourage them to speak up if they ever feel uncomfortable.“Keep It a Secret.”
Secrets can be harmful. Establish a “no secrets” rule in your family. Let your child know that if someone asks them to keep a secret, they should tell a trusted adult immediately.“Tantrums Are Bad.”
While tantrums can be tough to handle, there are times when making noise is necessary—especially when your child feels unsafe. Teach them it’s okay to kick, scream, or create a scene to attract attention if they’re in danger.“Always Help Others.”
Encouraging kids to help strangers can make them vulnerable to predators who pretend to need assistance. Instead, teach your child to prioritize their safety and seek a trusted adult if someone asks for help.“You’re Safe in Public.”
Public places aren’t always safe. Abductions can happen anywhere, even in crowded areas. Teach your child how to stay aware of their surroundings and recognize safe spaces where they can seek help.“Use Your Manners.”
Being polite is important, but not at the cost of their safety. Encourage your child to speak up and say “no” if they feel uncomfortable or threatened. Setting boundaries is a crucial skill for self-protection.
Adjusting the way you talk about safety with your child can make a big difference. Empower them to trust their instincts and take charge of their own safety, so they can navigate the world with confidence.
